What is Your Definition of Success?

Mike Holmes | December 10, 2009 | View Comments Comments
What does success mean to you?

What does success mean to you?

This is a guest post from Bradley Moore of Shrinking the Camel

I once heard a story about Henry Kissinger falling asleep in the middle of a very important meeting. Apparently, he did that a lot. Everyone noticed, but no one dared say anything because he was such a highly respected diplomat. The moment he came to, upon picking up the few fragments of sentences that were being discussed in mid-conversation, he immediately interrupted the group with some blinding insight.

I try not to fall asleep in meetings, whether I am making the presentation, or receiving one. Because, unlike Henry Kissinger, I am very concerned about what people think of me. I would rather make sure I come across as sharp and capable and prepared and on the ball. I guess I haven’t achieved enough yet in my career that would allow me such unguarded self-possession.

But that story puts things in perspective, mostly by revealing how insecure I must be. Here is a man who was so self-assured as to feel the freedom to doze off in the middle of some high-powered meeting. “What’s the difference?” he’s thinking. “I am smarter than all of these people, and I know what the end result is going to look like anyway. My time is better spent in a snooze.”  If only I had such bravado!

How Will You Know When You’ve Finally Arrived?

I decided that Mr. Kissinger was an inspiring role model. If only I could be so well-respected, unquestionably smart and insightful. In fact, his example would be a good benchmark for success. Better yet, why not make it a goal? Yes, this is how I will know when I have finally arrived in my career: When I can fall asleep during a meeting without giving a rip, because everyone knows that even in my sleep, I am a valuable team member.

Not that this could actually ever happen in my lifetime. But it did get me thinking about success, and the possibility to nail down a version of what that ultimately might look like for me. What will it take for me to finally calm down and truly believe deep down inside that I’ve made it?

Most of us view our lives as a series of plateaus to climb – when we have accomplished one thing, we start looking for the next. So our idea of “success” is a moving target, and in that case there is no true sense of arrival.  On the other hand, scripture tells us to look to God, be content in what we are doing, stop striving (look at the lilies of the field!), and rest in the Lord. Also, remain humble, put others first, and submit to God’s will. Well, that’s all spiritually agreeable, but it doesn’t mean I’m going to stop trying, stop dreaming, stop reaching.

Is There A Spiritual Definition of Business Success?

I started fishing around for a better definition of success (without a sleep reference), one that can integrate my desire for spiritual fulfillment right alongside my ambition and desire for achievement. Here is what I came up with.

My definition of success is: Achieving my full potential while fully surrendering to God.

Works for me

What do you think?

About the AuthorBusiness executive Bradley J. Moore writes with raw honesty and biting humor about the challenges of connecting spiritual Christian life with career and family life on his blog Shrinking the Camel. He is a regular contributor to several online magazines including HighCalling, InsideWork, SalesGravy and BlogCritics.  His writing has also been featured in the  The Conference Board Review magazine and The Chicago Sun Times. You can follow him on Twitter

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  • Kitty Bookout
    In business we all know and have seen the difference working with or for Christians and non-Christians. In business there is a lot of postering, untruths or half-truths, selfishness, greed, non-compliance with laws (God's and government), policies, and actions that are not the best for the business, the customers, or the employees. We have to be different in the way we operate in business and it will be reflected in how we act, react and treat others. If we are not willing to admit our failures, and go the extra mile to take corrective action, then act differently the next time, we will not honor God.

    If we are breathing, we will make mistakes in our busines lives. I know for me no matter how successful I look to others if I am not surrendering to God there is no peace or success.

    I thought about Job as a perfect example of "success". Job's trials, losses, physical hurts, struggles, financial ruin, reputation, relationships, etc. were seen in every area of his life and seen by all. We sometimes see failure when God sees success. Our success cannot be measured by anyone other than God. He knows our heart and where we are headed.
  • God has always been the standard of everything...including success. And you're right NOT going that extra doesn't fit into His definition. Personally I love business and I can't understand why people divorce Him from it. He created it...along with everything else. But wisdom is justified by her children...

    Thanks for the comments...be blessed:)
  • dansblack
    The best definition of success that I have heard is from John Maxwell: "Success is, knowing your purpose in life, growing to our maximum potential, and sowing seeds that benefit others"
  • I agree with that! Incidentally, I listened to him a couple of weeks ago. And he said the one of the characteristics of successful people is that without fail they know their purpose. They know why they're here and what they're supposed to do. That knowledge gives them a laser focus and allows them to use their energies wisely. It blew me away!
  • dansblack
    That's so true. I read and listen to a lot of his material, he is full of wisdom and stuff that enlarges your thinking.
  • lynnlancour
    I used to focus on what I made monetarily and strived to continue to increase that figure. Now I focus on what I do for others in his name and the money comes.

    Staying grounded and connected by starting the day off in scripture vs the daily news has given me a new lease on my purpose. Being at Peace in my heart is how I know I have succeeded at work.
  • Absolutely! Money with no peace is fruitless work. We all have to stay grounded...I'm glad God helps us stay grounded:)
  • annelangbundy
    I cannot think of any way to improve on your definition. In an instant, it makes me reevaluate how hard I am on myself.

    Thank you.
  • bradleyjmoore
    Anne - I think any of us who are driven can get too hard on ourselves. Yes, we need to reevaluate constantly, and release the outcome to God.
  • In this context success is simply being what God has purposed you to be, ie to be obedient to Him right now. His Word says seek first the Kingdom and all these things will be added...
    So for me success is not about what I have but what I am.
  • bradleyjmoore
    Steve - The only thing is that I think God has wired us to create which means we like to dream, to set and achieve goals. Sometimes that can get the best of us, even though we are doing what we think God has purposed us for, at least for me, it can take over the "Being" part. I like your definition - it is about what I am, first.
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